I’ve had the chance to get out of the city and spend several weekends upstate with my husband and some friends this fall. And it’s not until I get back to my computer on Monday that I truly appreciate what those 48 hours of unplugging really do for me. They reset me.
During these weekends upstate, I’m completely disconnected. The houses where we stay get no signal - so, for these weekends, phones serve as cameras. Not as communication devices, computers, social connectors or thumb workouts - just cameras (sadly, this does not include Instagram). Naturally, during the first hours of no connectivity, I’m on the brink of an anxiety attack. But, shortly(ish) thereafter, I let go (likely because I have no other choice, but it still works!). I let go of whatever is worrying me or exciting me. I let go of checking my phone or thinking about what else I could be doing to be more productive. And I really just enjoy the moment in front of me. (And maybe snap a picture.)
These weekends aren’t elaborate. We cook every meal and drink great wine. We go for walks and listen to music. We watch old movies, and we barbecue. We talk — really talk and really listen. And we have conversations that last hours and allow us to think big, grow and reassess with a refreshed perspective. Somehow, despite the simplicity of it all, this feels like pampering.
And then, all of a sudden, it happens. You’re unplugged, enjoying the moment and really using your brain to think (but not over-think), and it just clicks that all of this has allowed you to become more aware and more engaged with what’s going on around you. I soaked in the sunshine when the sun was shining and enjoyed the sound of the rain when it was raining. I took deeper breaths to really feel all of those beautiful trees changing colors around me.
I don’t know if this is yogic, or poetic, or just something flowery — but this is needed.
Taking a break and hitting reset doesn’t have to come in the form of a whole weekend. It can be an afternoon, a day or even just one hour you dedicate to something you truly want - but don’t have - to do. Maybe it’s a phone call you allow yourself to make to listen to someone you love or to catch up with someone you miss. Maybe it’s to explore something you’ve never done before or haven’t done in too long. Maybe disconnecting for you means turning off all electronics: no phones, no iPads, no TV. Maybe it’s playing with your kids or grandkids, or going for a walk with your partner. Or maybe you recharge by heading outdoors for an adventure - even if it’s to admire a work of architecture right down your block.
My biggest takeaway from the weekend was that even when it takes planning in order to do it, disconnecting is a gift we should give ourselves as often as we need it. These “breathers” are the reset buttons that charge us up and keep us going. Disconnecting - for however short or long you need to do so - allows us to fully connect to ourselves, to our day-to-days, to our loved ones and to our surroundings. And nothing can make you more productive, energetic or creative than that.
Photo via Bari Studio
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